OK, let's start. See the link below?
Right-click on it and select open link in new window. (this opens Lavalife
in a second browser window, which means you can continue to read this
while filling in your profile)
Now click (left click, as normal) on SIGN UP
You are now given 3 options;- dating, relationship and intimate. Lavalife
is divided into these 3 areas and you can choose to create a profile
in any or all of them, though you must do them one at a time.
We shall create a profile in the dating area. The procedure is similar
in each area so you can pick whichever area you wish. Click on Dating
icon (or other area).
Lavalife now asks you to create a Login identity. Type in a username
and password you can easily remember. This username is NOT part of your
identity it is only used for login. Then retype your password and a
valid email address. It asks you about email preferences, we suggest
you check the 'never' box or the 'first time I get mail' box, otherwise
you may find your email becomes full. Sign up for Lavalife Notes if
you wish but do make sure you check the I am 18+ box. Then click CONTINUE
(sometimes you may find someone else has already used your username,
so Lavalife gives you an option to change it)
Now we come to creating a profile
Think of a nickname. HINT: Generally,
it has been found that 'cute' nicknames get more responses.
Although Lavalife warns you not to use your real name, a nickname with
a name in it can help add a personal or informal touch. Alternatively,
turn your nickname into a question, such as 'Doyoudance'. Be careful
not to pick a name which might suggest you are fat (e.g. cuddly), ugly,
or lonely. Names which include your location, eg. OHIOGUY, may not be
a good idea if chatting to someone in, say, California as the distances
might put them off getting to know you better first.
So, think of a nickname which may be cute and has perhaps part of your
name (such as Cute Chris)
Now you need an opening line for your profile. Think of this
like a newspaper headline, so try to make it catchy or witty. Avoid
things like, 'just looking' which might suggest you're not really interested.
Try something like 'contact me' or 'click here' which suggests to others
what to do, or 'dinner date tonite?' to suggest what you are offering!
Then you are asked to list up to 9 things you like. Browse thru
the items listed and simply select up to 9. Now you simply have to enter
information, which is confidential, about yourself. This should be quite
straight forward. Guys, do not exaggerate your height too much !
Finally, check, 'show profile always' (otherwise people will not see
it !). Then click CONTINUE
If you miss something out, Lavalife will warn you and ask you to fill
Now the screen should display all your details. Make sure they are
correct and then click CONTINUE TO FINISH.
You are now a member !
Writing your profile. You have up to 2000 characters to start
your profile. You can always add to it later but you must make a start
now. So write something very simple about yourself, who you are and
what you like. E.g. Hi, thanks for taking time
to view my profile. I am a happy and enthusiastic person looking to
meet other people who are willing to share good things in life.
Do read the tips and what's not allowed. Make sure you do not put a
name or tel. number in your profile. Click SUBMIT
The screen should now show your profile. Look thru it. This is what
others will see of you. Are you happy with it ? If not, click edit on
any part you do not like. If you are happy, scroll down to Interests
and click on COMPLETE NOW.
You will then be shown a screen which asks you to check your interests.
Do this as accurately as you can. Then click SUBMIT
Now go to Profile Preferences and click on COMPLETE
On the next page UNCHECK 'Accept Collect Calls
by' in all areas. Collect calls are generally used by cheapskates
who want you to pay instead of them. By unchecking these boxes you are
saying you will not accept these calls and you should not be bothered
by them. Click SUBMIT
Now you should see a new screen with colored columns labelled Dating,
Relationship and Intimate Encounters. You should see that Dating (or
whichever area you chose) has figures in it while the others simply
say 'create a profile'). This shows that you have created a profile
in this area. On the page you should see a link to 'submit a picture'.
If you have a picture of yourself saved on disk, now is the time to
upload it. It is not essential to have a picture but it helps get better
responses. Click the link to Submit A Picture.
You should see a little box labelled Upload a Picture. Click on BROWSE
to search your computer and locate the picture you want. Hints:
- make sure it is a picture of you and only you. A face shot (smiling!)
is good or a head and shoulder shot. No nudity! Select the
picture you want and click OPEN.
The filename of your picture should now appear in the box on the Lavalife
screen. Scroll down a little way and select the profile box under Dating
(or whichever area you chose). Then click Submit Picture. The screen
should refresh and you should see your new picture.
If you have other pictures of yourself, you can submit them to your
backstage. No one can see your backstage pictures unless you give them
permission. So you can put more personal pictures on your backstage.
But note that nudity is only allowed in the intimate area. To do this
click Submit Another at the top of the screen. Otherwise click Submit
Note that the screen says 'THANKS' at the top.
If you now click on PROFILE near the top
of the page, you will go back to your profile. You should see that your
picture is not yet viewable but it should read above it that there is
1 (or more) pic on file. Your picture and your profile are being verified
before being displayed. This is usually a formality provided you have
followed the guidelines.
Congratulations. You are now a member of Lavalife. If you now click
on the yellow DATING at the very top of
the screen. You can join in the fun. You should now also see the Instant
Messaging window appear at the top right of the screen. This is where
people will contact you
If you wish now to become a full member. Click on the Buy
Credits box on the right of the screen. A new window will open
to allow you to pay by card. You use credits to send messages to other
members. So you only pay for what you use.
Good Luck and Enjoy !