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Body Language
By Bud Smith
Body language is fascinating. People rarely recognize how
much information they give off and how noticeable it is to the human eye.
Even to the untrained human eye. It is said that no less that 50 percent of
information on a person’s character, impact and credibility is conveyed
through no verbal communication.
The following is a list of some common body postures and
states the persons position.
Meanings of body actions
Arms crossed: Defensive and cautious.
Resting chin on palm: Critical, cynical and negative
towards the other person.
Dropping eyeglasses onto the lower bridge of the nose and
peering over them: Causes negative reactions in others.
Slowly and deliberately taking off glasses and carefully
cleaning the lens: The person wants to pause and think before raising
opposition or asking for clarification.
Pinching bridge of the nose: Communicates great thought
and concern.
Nose-rubbing or nose-touching: A sign of doubt, it often
reveals a negative reaction.
Rubbing around ears: Performed while weighing an answer,
commonly coupled with 'well, I don't know'.
Resting feet on a desk or chair: Gestures of territorial
hegemony.
Swaying back: Weak ego.
Retracted shoulders: Suppressed anger.
Direct Eye Contact: Interested, likes you
Smiling Eyes: Is comfortable
Relaxed Brow: Comfortable
Limited or No Eye Contact : Lying, uninterested, too
confined, uncomfortable, distracted
Tension in Brow : Confusion, tension, fear
Shoulders hunched forward : Lacking interest or feeling
inferior
Rigid Body Posture : Anxious, uptight
Crossed arms : Can be just cold, protecting the body, or
defensive
Tapping Fingers : Agitated, anxious, bored
Fidgeting with hands or objects (i.e., pen) : Bored or
has something to say
Leaning forward : Interested
Fingers Interlocked placed behind the head leaving elbows
open and armpits exposed : Very open to ideas, comfortable
Mirroring you : Likes you and wants to be friendly
Still : More interested in what you are saying than
anything
Eyes open slightly more than usual: Gives people the
impression that they are welcome.
Breath faster: Nervous or angry
Inhaling loudly and shortly: Wants to interrupt a
speaking person
Loud sigh: Understand the thing that is being told.
Twisting the feet continuously : A person is nervous or
concerned, but can also mean that a person is stressed or angry and that he
don't want to show that to everybody.
Legs wide apart or Sitting straddle-legged: Shows that a
person is feeling safe, and is self - confident. Can also show leadership.
A big smile that goes on longer and disappears slower.:
Unreal or fake smile
Crossed legs with highest foot in the direction of the
speaker.: Relaxed and self-confident and they are listening very carefully.
Rapidly nodding your head : Shows impatient and eager to
add something to the conversation
Slowly nodding: Shows interest and that they are
validating the comments of the interviewer, and this subtly encourages him
to continue.
Dangling the loose shoe from the toes : Signals physical
attraction
Rubbing your collar: Nerves
Adjusting your tie: Insecurity
Pressed Lips: Pressed lips convey disagreement and
disapproval. It communicates a desire to end the discussion. A raised chin
implies aggression that may be acted on if the conversation is not ended.
Pursed Lips: This is also a sign of disapproval. It
indicates that the person has fixed views that cannot be changed. This
usually reveals an arrogant and superficial character.
Biting the Lips: The person expresses embarrassment when
he bites his lips. He also communicates a lack of self-confidence.
Reading Hand Signals: People have been granted with two
hands: the left and the right hand. The left has been dubbed as the
"emotional hand” since an imaginary line can be drawn from the third finger
leading directly to the heart. This is why the wedding ring is placed on
this finger. The right hand, literally on the other hand. has been named the
"proper hand” since it is with this hand that people communicate a blocking
or stopping signal.
Open Hands: Open hands may be demonstrated by showing the
palm of one’s hand, especially in a conversation or an argument.. This
expresses a trust in other and an interest in their opinions. It also offers
an opinion and invites the sharing of the other person’s view.
Covered Hands: This is expressed by raising the back of
one or both hands against others. This indicates the setting up of barriers
or the keeping of distance. It is an act of concealing feelings and covering
insecurity
Clinging Hands: Those who cling to objects, such as
handbags. files or tables. show a need for support. This action conveys
confusion or insecurity. It expresses fear and difficulty in coping with the
current situation.
Twisted Hands ( crossing both hands then clasping the
palms together) : Expression of a complex personality. It may indicate a
difficult emotional life. The way the palms are held together conveys a need
to hide something.
Clasping the hands : indicates defence.
Shrugged shoulders: You can recognize stressed shoulders
by the fact that they are a bit shrugged, which does make the head look
smaller. The meaning of the signal comes from crouching in dangerous
situations.
The meaning of this posing depends on the combination. In
combination with big eyes it means that someone is concerned about something
that is going to happen. In combination with a face that is turned away it
means that the person wants to be left alone. An introvert person has nearly
always those stressed shoulders.
Difference in level of both shoulders: By most of the
people the left and the right shoulder are of the same height. When they are
not, it often means that someone is doubting about what he is going to do.
With this movement we simulate (unconscious) that we are weighing the
possibilities. Sometimes when someone makes this movement, his head will
move a little like he is looking above.
Crossed arms: There are a lot of different explanations
of the meaning of crossed arms. When someone has crossed arms and he is
shaking his head it means that he does not agree with you. But he can also
cross his arms when he is frightened, then his arms give him some
protection. Another option is that he is feeling cold and he is trying to
hold his body-warmth with him. When someone is sitting in a chair with his
arms crossed, it indicates that the person is relaxed.
Making a fist from your hands: A fist is a sign for
aggression. It comes from hitting someone. But it is seldom used with a
threatening meaning. Most of the time it is used to indicate that you are
angry or irritated.
Holding the hand before the mouth: Holding a hand before
your mouth means that you are hiding something. In western countries it is
impolite to belch or to hiccup. So someone can hold his hand before his
mouth to hide that he is hiccupping. When someone puts his hand before his
mouth when he is talking it indicates that he is saying something or has
said something that he did not want to say.
Making the eyes look larger: The meaning of making the
eyes look larger can be that someone is astonished. In that case he opens
his mouth a little. It can also mean that he is happy or that he likes the
thing that is talked about. And because it means that you like something,
you can use it on purpose. It pleases people when you have your eyes opened
a bit further.
When people open their eyes a bit further it can also
mean that they are unhappily surprised. Then they will frown their eyebrows.
Raising the eyebrows: Raising the eyebrows shortly means
that people are surprised. They raise their eyebrows to allow them to look
better. But it can also mean that somebody is looking at you, and that he
likes you.
Raised forehead: A raised forehead often means that
someone is remembering something he has seen. This often happens very
quickly. It can also be a sign of a certain emotion. It is a biological
reflex that you raise your forehead a little when you are crying so the
tears can move easier.
Pursed lips: When somebody purses his lips it means that
he has to make a decision and is thinking about that. Sometimes he also
moves his lips, like he is saying the possibilities. When somebody purses
his lips, he often looks a bit upward.
Firm Handshake: The strong, firm handshake usually is
given by a person who is sure and confident of themselves.
Weak hand shake: People who give these types of
handshakes are either nervous, shy, insecure, or afraid of interaction with
other people.
Cleared your throat: Nervousness.
Bitten your fingernails: Nervousness.
Wring your hands: Nervousness.
Paced the floor: Nervousness.
A person is bouncing their legs and their arms are
crossed over or their torso is slumped: Closed off
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About The Author
Written by Bud Smith, a co-webmaster of
http://www.infoweb.co.nz.
Infoweb is the place to go for information on musical instruments and
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