Cougar Relationships
Older women Younger men
relationships.
What is a 'cougar relationship'?
Put quite simply, it is a
relationship between an older woman and a younger man.
It seems there's been an
increase in this type of relationship over the last few years.
But it is also something that has existed for a long time. It is
often the older celebrity woman that gets noticed by the media
when they have a relationship with a younger man. People like,
Mae West, Mary Tyler Moore, Raquel Welsh and Susan
Sarandon.
But what's the attraction in a
cougar relationship?
It has often been said that
opposites attract, which is why men and women get together.
Traditionally tough it has been the older man with a younger
woman, usually not more than a few years between them. But why
shouldn't a man have a relationship with an older woman or
indeed a woman have a relationship with a younger man. In
societies nowadays, barriers are being broken down everywhere so
why are cougar relationships still seen as unusual?
An estimate says that about
1/3rd of women aged 40 or over have dated younger men. So what's
the attraction for these women? Is it simply sexual, thinking
that a younger man will have more stamina and satisfy them
better? Is it a power thing, do these women enjoy having
influence or a 'mothering' aspect over their partner? Is it
simply female 'trophy hunting', are these younger men used as
'trophy partners'. Maybe such women are trying to prove to
themselves that they are still attractive and able to pull young
virile men, possibly they have problems accepting their real
age. Or is it simply that these women enjoy a loving successful
relationship with a man who just happens to be their junior?
But what's the attraction for
the man? Does he see the woman as a 'mother figure'? Does he see
her as an older experienced woman; someone who will 'teach' him.
Again, is it a 'power thing'? does the guy see the wealthy,
older woman as being powerful and feel that he will gain some
power by being associated with her? Or could it simply be that
the man is enjoying a loving relationship with a woman who just
happens to be older?
Well, the answers are going to
be as varied in number according to the number of such
relationships. You see, each relationship is different and may
involve many of the aspects mentioned above and maybe more. The
point is, that such relationships should not be seen as unusual
like they traditionally have been.
Yet there are problems with
cougar relationships. Can such a relationship last as one
partner gets older and the other has yet to reach middle age.
Can such relationships bear the stress of having children. What
if there are children already involved perhaps from previous
relationships, especially if the children are older than the
male partner!
Read one woman's problem
with being attracted to younger men.
A
woman's guide to younger men
Older Women Should Have More Fun
Unleashing the Cougar in You
Dating Advice for Men: Why Some Women Like Younger Men
By Dina
Giolitto
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Madonna and Guy
Ritchie. Your old high school English teacher and... your best
buddy?! Hey, it could happen. These days, if an older woman wants
a baby, she can have one.
There will always be the Traditional Tina,
scoping out an older fella who’s "on her maturity level" as she
likes to think- and who's willing to play provider. But what of
the ever-growing population of footloose women with their crazy
cradle-robbing ways? Is this another Maggie May, who, as Rod
Stewart tells it, will "wreck your bed, and in the morning kick
you in the head?" Or is she some lonely desperado, hoping to latch
on to a kinder, gentler generation of men? Here are some insights
as to why some women prefer to date younger guys.
Not every girl wants a father figure.
Often, a man who’s older than you assumes a protective and
paternal role; and to many women, this is a real turn-off. Why?
Well, for starters, we already have a daddy! Not to mention, the
woman who holds a high-paying exec job Monday through Friday may
have some trouble playing Helpless Heather on the weekends. She's
used to taking care of herself,
speaking
on her own behalf, and yes, even paying her own way without the
help of Daddy Warbucks.
Younger men are often better in bed. Ahh,
the cruel irony of life. Remember sex with your college
girlfriend? That 21-year-old ‘fraidy cat is now a tigress of
temptation. Something funny happens to women as they age. Their
testosterone levels increase; oddly enough, around the same time
that men’s are plummeting. The hormone surge gives ladies a libido
lift, which is why women in their 30s and 40s just want to get
busy. Meanwhile, our same-age male counterparts are busy studying
the inside of their eyelids. Need I say more?
Younger guys look up to an older, successful
woman. Let’s talk about those corporate power babes again.
Sometimes, it's lonely at the top... but not when there's a
starry-eyed cutie-pie smiling up at you! There's something to be
said for having a younger guy who admires you for your
accomplishments. It makes you feel great, and the sad fact is, you
can’t always get that kind of respect from an older man. Baby
Boomers may love Donna Reed, but guys born later can understand
and better appreciate women who go after their dreams.
The metrosexual male is our cup of tea.
Nothing like having your boy over for some afternoon delight and
finding out he borrowed your loofah in the shower. The New
Generation of open-minded guys is A-OK in our book! This guy can
whip up a Thai stir-fry using organic ingredients, grooms his
fingernails and his toenails, is politically-correct to a fault,
and won’t eat Starkist if it might harm the baby dolphins. To the
40-something who grew up with Archie Bunker, he's a breath of
fresh air.
Girls just want to have fun. Some of us
are downright immature, and we’re not afraid to say it! Perhaps
"young at heart" is the better term, but the point is this: some
old gals really do just want to have fun. Lots of broads who are
pushing fifty still rock out at concerts, drive 70 mph with the
top down, stay out all night, flip people off when necessary, and
generally wreak havoc. That’s not to say we can’t find a man of
ANY age to engage in juvenile antics with us... but, well, the
younger ones just seem more willing to join in the fun.
Some women are late bloomers.
Embarrassing as it may be, plenty of chicks spend the better part
of their 20s mired in self-doubt and confusion. Instead of kicking
back like they should have, the rainclouds of pessimism hung
around to dampen their fun and turn them into neurotic freaks. Ten
years later, some of those very same basketcases have mellowed
into chill ladies who are just now ready to embrace life to the
fullest. If this involves cavorting with young fellas in ways they
never thought possible, all the better! Better late than never,
right girls?
Guys in their prime are ohhhh, so fine.
If you had to choose between a thick, juicy steak and some
shriveled up beef jerky, which one would you pick? In the same way
that men can't help looking at supple young girls, we ladies
find ourselves drawn to guys under thirty. Younger men have tight
bodies, bright eyes, great smiles, and usually a crowd of buddies
to keep them laughing and pumped for excitement. What's the
alternative? The balding bachelor with a beer gut who sits home
smoking stogies and listening to Springsteen's Glory Days on
repeat mode? No, thanks!
In all seriousness, it shouldn’t matter the age
of two people who mutually respect and enjoy each other’s company.
We love who we love, not matter what their age or what they look
like. If an older woman and a younger man feel comfortable having
a relationship, then no one has the right to criticize them. To
the lady who simply likes a quick fling with a hot young stallion?
Here’s to you, Mrs. Robinson.
Copyright 2005 Dina Giolitto. All rights
reserved.
Dina Giolitto is a New-Jersey based Copywriting
Consultant with nine years' industry experience. Her current focus
is web content and web marketing for a multitude of products and
services although the bulk of her experience lies in retail for
big-name companies like Toys"R"Us. Visit
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