Four Dating Rules You Must Know To Transform Your Love
Life
By
Zakaria AdamDating is the first step to love. I
am going to give you a simple guide to find your
dream-lover. First of all, you will need to call the
following basic equipment into full action: brain, eyes,
ears, lips and hands. That's all you need, at least in
the beginning. Hang on, I know what you are going to
say, “are you nuts Zak forgetting the vital ones.” Let
me clear this mystery once and for all, which has
dazzled billions for thousands of years. I am talking
about love here. Before feeling the warmth of the fire,
it has to be built up from a spark.
Learning to redirect the energy going out and coming
into your body through thoughts, vision, hearing, speech
and actions in a way which others will find attractive
is absolutely critical and is where most tumble. Even
moving the mouse or typing on the keyboard is use of
energy. It is vital to bring your energy in tune with
the wavelengths of your love-interest.
You may ask, “why is it then when I put so much into
my relationship with an ex it did not work”? Fair
question. Here is a simple tip which will forever change
the way you look at people. Do you agree every person
has a right to do whatever they want if it is not
intruding in anyone else's business? “Yes?” - Correct
answer!
Let's look at an example. When you offer to do
something for others to the point where they feel like
you are not allowing them to make choices of their own,
you have intruded on their right to independence. This
causes them to resent and think you are trying to
enforce your will even though your intentions are
completely different. Of course no one should stop doing
favors for their lover or helping out. Simply be
yourself and allow others to be themselves.
The first and most important rule in love is to
respect the individuality of your lover
allowing him/her to make own choices. If you make
decisions together, consult to show you believe in
him/her.
Second love requires effort. Everything
in life is determined by how much you put behind it.
Sometimes luck may give you an edge, but only those who
work on it stay ahead. Have fun and stop treating it
like something you need but find inconvenient getting
done. Prioritize and put more time and energy behind it
like you would behind getting an education or doing a
job. Go for it with passion. Believe if not today, there
is a tomorrow!
The third rule is to be confident. I
cannot stress this rule enough even if I were to hang on
a tree upside down for you. “Yeah but I can never gather
the nerves”, is what you may tell me. There are tons of
ways to boost yourself for which I don't even have space
to write. I will show you the fastest and easiest way,
which is to stop the things which destroy confidence. If
you are able to stop negative influences, you will
automatically be able to disengage from the battles of
life and focus on doing some gardening in your love
life. From my experience and research the main reasons
because of which people's wills crumble are:
Past experiences
Current relationships
Work environments
Pre-set attitudes
Lack of Communication
Too much negativity. Too little positiveness
Refusal to disengage from battles when victory is
more expensive than loss
Each one of us is fully capable of doing whatever our
heart desires. Everyone's case is different and you will
have to look at specific issues and see where to make
improvements. Not all changes are easy and sometimes you
may have to choose an option which looks less secure but
at least you are exchanging for happiness. What worth is
life lived in sorrow?
The last and most important rule is to be ready
to change. Only by setting a new course will you
be able to steer the heart out of the stormy waters of
pain and loneliness. Decide now on what you want? Take a
sheet of paper and write down, the questions which have
been bugging you, with detailed answers. Empty the
sadness, so your mind can think clearly. Are you happy
the way you are right now? If you had an opportunity to
get to where ever you always wanted to be, are you ready
to rise? Are you ready to stand up from the past and
build a future? Arise if you believe you deserve better!
Remember hardships may come by, but those who pursue the
path of their hearts with honest ambition never fail.
You don't have to become a different person
overnight. Just starting the process by doing one little
thing a day consistently is enough to change the
direction of your life. Of course if you have the
courage to make whole-scale changes go for it. Most
importantly, never look back once you decide to move
forward.
Take the above rules to your heart and I will
guarantee your love life will explode with more sound
and resonance than you ever dreamed. Also keep in mind
even though you do need to work on the above to attract
the right people don't hold yourself responsible if your
previous lovers let you down for something which was not
your fault. The rule of Karma is what goes around comes
around and they will reap the fruits which they sow. Be
reasonable. It is not the end of the world and move on
because there is still much more to explore.
You have the tools and the fire of passion to convert
desire into reality. Drop the hooks you have been using
to fish in the pond of love and look into its waters as
the reflection leads to the path from which dreams
emerge.
Visit Zakaria Adam at
http://www.GrandLover.com for advice on
relationships, dating, romance and Love.
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