I feel alone, I feel
lonely, I do not know how to cope with loneliness. How often have we heard
Loneliness can be a big problem for single
people and coping with loneliness can be very difficult.
Yet, loneliness and
being alone can mean different things to different people.
Even when we are with
friends, we may still feel alone or lonely, perhaps because we are not
connecting with the people around us. Sometimes even when we are on our
own, we do not always feel lonely or do not feel unable to cope with
Why is this ? Why do
we sometimes feel lonely and unable to cope with the loneliness, yet at
other times we seem hardly aware of our loneliness?
The issue seems to be
one of perception and of not being connected to people around you.
So how can you deal
with loneliness ?
There would seem to be
two areas you need to consider. When do you most or most often feel alone
? When you are in the company of other people but do not connect with
them? or when you are on your own?
Let's first consider
how to cope with loneliness when you are on your own. In these situations,
it appears that a person is feeling lonely because they have not connected
with themselves and long to be with others or someone else. This is not
always possible, at least not immediately. So the person (you) feels alone
and feels lonely.
Here's a list from
Warren Shepell Counselling Services
of possible things to do when you feel lonely and on your own.
Listen to music or read an uplifting book
Take a walk in a park, field or forest
Attend a country fair or community event
Play with a pet
Give your plants some tender loving care
Visit a place of worship
Browse through a museum, zoo or art gallery
Study the night sky or visit a planetarium
Trace your family tree
Chart your horoscope
Call a phone-in radio show; tap into a computer chat
Write a letter to the editor
Take a bubble bath
Cook your favorite meal
So when you feel
lonely, on your own and feel unable to cope with loneliness, try one or
more of these suggestions, see if it helps you. At least it should divert
you from feeling lonely and enable you to focus on something else.
what about feeling alone in the company of
others ? ...