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It is not
unreasonable for you to have feelings for this girl or her to have
feelings for you. If you are both just starting university and have
only recently met, then it is still early days.
You are both in
a new and perhaps strange situation. It is often exciting and
beneficial to meet someone you get on with, when you are in a strange
place.
You have to
keep in mind that University life is not your whole life. You both
have lives back home. Although you may spend most time at university,
you cannot yet completely cut yourself off from home life, just yet!
This girl
clearly had a boyfriend back home before coming to university. He
clearly misses her, which is probably why he rings her rather than
being a 'control freak'. She quite probably misses him too.
Yet he is not
there everyday to help her and be with her. You have that advantage
there. Yet she also knows that she is likely to go back home during
vacations and she will want to meet him then.
Time is not
just a great healer, it is also a great changer. As time goes on, she
may drift away from her boyfriend back home and he from her. This is
where time is to your advantage as you could still be there for her.
So play the
long game, let time be your ally. Keep your relationship to just good
friendship for now. Do talk to her about your feelings and hers and
about her boyfriend back home. That way you will be able to tell when
she is starting to drift away from him.
Do not force
anything just yet. It is still early days. She is probably grateful to
have met a friend and she may not yet want more than that. |
