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Financial
problems can put a great strain upon relationships as you have
discovered. You say that you want an opinion on your decision, which
suggests that you want someone to say that you were right and that
you want some support.
You have made
your decision and, right or wrong, you have to stand by it. Let's
have a look, though, at some observations that can be made from what
you write.
You are
married and that means that your husband's problems are also your
problems. His problems affect you and your life as well as they do
his. You husband has a right to request that the inheritance goes to
help pay his debts unless it was your uncle's written wish that it
did not.
However, your
husband was not right to simply expect that the money would
automatically be used as he wished. There were, and are, other
demands upon the money.
One of those
other uses was as a down-payment on your dream house. Though you say
that this came from your mother.
The real
issue here is not so much the use of the money but the lack of
communication between you. It would have been far better if you
could have sat down and discussed how the money should be used in
the best way. In this discussion you could have looked at the common
good of the two of you instead of each of you fighting your own
corner and trying to use the money for your own needs.
As it is, you
did give some money to help ease your husband's debts. However, your
husband had to resort to devious means to force you to do so. Hardly
a loving and caring approach. How much nicer and easier it could
have been if you could have talked about the money in a calm and
agreeable way before hand.
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