Are You Dating a Potential Cheater?
By Ruth
Houston
Like most single women who are dating, I’m sure you’ll want to avoid
getting involved with a man who’s likely to cheat. After all, he could
one day break your heart. But according to statistics, an estimated 50
to 70 percent of men cheat on their mates. How can you tell if the man
you’re dating is one of these potential cheaters? Wouldn’t it be great
to have this information about him before you get too deeply involved?
Find out If He’s Prone to Infidelity
Finding out whether or not the man you’re dating is prone to
infidelity is much easier than you think. Studies reveal that some men
are more likely to cheat than others because of their background, their
past history, or certain character traits. Using this information, I’ve
designed a 7 question quiz that can help you determine if the man you’re
dating is a potential cheater.
Single Women Screen Dates with this Quiz
The Potential Cheaters Quiz was originally posted on my website
http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com to help married women find out if their
husbands are potential cheaters. However numerous single women report
that they’re using the quiz to screen the men they meet at dating sites,
and through dating services and personal ads.
Decide Who Not to Date
The Potential Cheaters quiz can help you make an informed decision
about whether or not to continue dating a man, or how deeply to get
involved. By identifying and avoiding the potential cheaters in the
dating pool, you can save yourself a lot of unnecessary headaches and
heartaches.
Rate Your Date with the Potential Cheaters Quiz
So before you fall head-over-heels in love or get too attached to
that new man in your life, rate your date’s cheating potential with the
7 questions below:
Potential Cheaters Quiz
1. Does he thrive on adventure?
2. Did he have a great deal of sexual experience prior to your
relationship?
3. Does he have lots of female friends?
4. Does he have male friends who are cheating on their wives or
girlfriends?
5. Does he have a parent who cheated?
6. Did he cheat in any of his past relationships?
7. Does he feel that infidelity is really no big deal?
What the Answers Mean:
1. Some men enjoy all the suspense, deception and intrigue that go
along with infidelity. They’ll cheat just for the “thrill of the chase.”
2. Studies reveal that men who were extremely sexually active before
settling down in a committed relationship are more apt to engage in sex
outside that relationship. Don’t expect a leopard to change his spots.
3. Close friendships with women are a common starting point for
infidelity. Friends can quickly turn into lovers. The closer the
friendship, the greater the odds that it will develop into an affair.
4. Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. If his friends are
cheating, he’ll soon be cheating too.
5. Infidelity tends to run in families. Children of unfaithful
parents are often programmed to follow in their footsteps, considering
infidelity to be the norm.
6. “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” There are exceptions, but
statistically speaking, if he cheated once, he’s more apt to do it
again. His history will probably repeat itself.
7. If he doesn’t believe that infidelity is wrong, his behavior will
reflect his beliefs.
How to Evaluate Your Results
Generally speaking, the more ‘yes’ answers, the greater the
likelihood that this man will cheat. But some answers carry more weight
than others, so you’ll want to take a closer look at the results.
If you answered yes to #1, #2, or #5 (but not all three), he’s a
POTENTIAL CHEATER who may very well cheat on you if the opportunity
presents itself. If you decide to get involved with him, you need to
make it difficult for him to cheat. Familiarize yourself with the signs
of infidelity, so you’ll know if he starts to stray.
If you answered yes to #3 or #4 alone, together, or in combination
with #1 or #2, he’s a COMMON “GARDEN-VARIETY” CHEATER who will
cheat if he feels he can do so without getting caught. Your challenge,
if you insist on dating him, is to stay one step ahead of him by
learning to recognize the early warning signs. If you know how to spot
the signs of impending infidelity, you may be able to stop his cheating
before it starts, or leave before he breaks your heart. Familiarize
yourself with the 21 major categories of telltale signs.
If you answered yes to #6 alone or in combination with #1,#2, #3, #4,
or #5 you’re dealing with an EXPERIENCED CHEATER who knows how to
hide the obvious signs of infidelity. The most important thing to do if
you’re dating this man is learn to spot the subtle signs of infidelity,
because these are the signs that will inevitably give him away. Get a
good infidelity reference guide, watch him like a hawk, and try not to
get too deeply involved.
If you answered yes to #7 alone ( This one’s the biggie!) or in
combination with any others, you’ve got a HARD-CORE, HABITUAL CHEATER
on your hands who’s probably already having an affair. (You could
unknowingly be the Other Woman.) For this man, cheating is a way of
life. If you don’t want to become an infidelity statistic, leave this
man alone. Should you decide to take on this challenge, you’re in
serious trouble if you don’t know how to spot the subtle signs of
infidelity. Forget about watching for the usual signs of cheating. This
man is an expert at covering his tracks. The best thing you can do is
become adept at spotting the subtle signs of infidelity, since there
won’t be any obvious signs to give him away. The subtle signs are the
ones he won’t even think to cover up. Get the best infidelity reference
book you can find to help you recognize these subtle signs. Invest in a
copy of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs which
lists practically every known sign of infidelity ( http://www.Is-He-Cheating-On-You.com
) and keep it handy at all times.
How to Deal With a Potential Cheater
If you’re already dating a potential cheater, or thinking about
dating one, you need to know what to do. Even if you only had one yes
answer on the Potential Cheater’s Quiz, there’s still cause for concern.
However, there are precautions you can take. My special report, “How
to Handle a Potential Cheater, gives you several successful
strategies to use. To receive your FREE copy of this special
report which normally sells for $7, send an e-mail to: InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com
with the words "Potential Cheater Report” in the subject line.
© Ruth Houston 2005 All rights reserved.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the author of Is He Cheating
on You?- 829 Telltale Signs, an infidelity reference book which
documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Ruth also
maintains a website
http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com which provides practical advice on
all aspects of infidelity. Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times,
the Toronto Sun, the New York Post, Cosmopolitan, iVillage, MSN
Lifestyle. AOL Black Voices and numerous others, and has been a guest on
Good Day New York, TalkAmerica, Telemundo, BBC, 1010WINS and over 150
other radio and TV talk shows in the US, Europe, South America, and the
Caribbean. Ruth also does personal infidelity consultations.
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