Relationship Quiz

How can I improve my relationship?

Each month, we get a handful of emails asking us the same thing - "how can I improve my relationship?"

Now that is not any easy question to answer, especially as there seem to be so many different types of relationship. Equally, so many people seem to want so many different things from a relationship. It is hard to know where to start.

So let us start at the fundamentals. We believe that a good, healthy and long-lasting relationship is built upon two principles; Communication and Commitment.

So let's ask ourselves the first question. When did you last talk with your partner?

Now we do not mean daily chit-chat, we mean when did you last communicate with your partner? Can you remember the last thing your partner said to you? Communication is about listening as well as talking. Communication is about sharing. It's about sharing your feelings, your views, your desires, your wishes for the future. It's also about sharing your fears and your worries.

If you do not communicate these things with your partner, how can your partner help you to achieve them? If your partner does not communicate these things with you, how can you help your partner to achieve them ? By sharing these things with each other, you start to build a stronger relationship.

Now let's try the second question. Are you truly committed to this relationship?

Be honest with yourself here. A healthy long-lasting relationship cannot be created unless both partners are committed to making it that way. If you feel you are just in this relationship until something, or someone, better turns up, then the relationship is surely destined to fail.

So there, we have given you the two principles of a healthy and long-lasting relationship. At least, that's how we see it. Hopefully we have given you some 'food for thought' , as they say.

If you'd like to learn more about relationships and how to make them better, why not try an online relationship quiz.

Our relationships are among the most important things in our lives, so why do we not put more into them?