Dating Dilemma: The Man Who Said
He'd Call and Didn't
by: Terry Hernon MacDonald
You went out with the guy. You both had a great
time (or at least you thought he did!). You said
goodnight, and he said he'd call you.
He didn't.
Why? What did you say to offend him? Was it your
hair? Your clothes? Your weight? What's wrong with
you, anyway?
The answers to those questions are as follows: Who
cares? Nothing, no, no, no, and not a damn thing.
Every woman in the world--no matter how thin,
beautiful, smart, kind or talented--has been
disappointed by a guy she really liked who said he'd
call but didn't.
Whatever you do, don't call him. Why? Because he
said he'd call you, and he didn't. Which means that
either his word is no good (better to know that early
on!), or that he accidentally threw away your phone
number with the tin foil he wrapped his peanut butter
sandwich in.
Yes, of course women have every right to phone a
man (as long as they're cool about it), but why put
yourself at a disadvantage by calling someone who
pretty much lied to you? Who needs it?
Now, before you fall into the funk that says you're
never going to get married, all your dates end badly,
you're getting older by the second, you're going to
die alone...
STOP!
The truth is, the guy has done you a favor. He's
not right for you, and in a cowardly manner he's let
you know that immediately, rather than stringing you
along for weeks. Rejection always hurts, sure, but it
happens to everybody. And you're a big girl; you'll
definitely get over it.
Remind yourself of what you have to offer, of what
makes you special. Know that if somebody with your
fine qualities exists, surely a man with the good
taste to love and appreciate you exists.
Know this: The world is full of much better men
than the toad who let you down. And every rejection
you face is a step toward the right man, the one who's
truly worthy of you and will add to your happiness.
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